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Since returning, my daughter and her husband seem to be coming after how to get rid of sugar ants in your house me for blood. I’m too emotionally distraught right now to even go into how to get rid of sugar ants in your house much detail about what happened, but in a nutshell, she is gaslighting me and lying about things I did/said, making me out to be a terrible, selfish person who doesn’t give a shit about anyone but myself and prefers how to get rid of sugar ants in your house my son over her.

This started well before I left for my trip. I pushed it on the back burner, but her behavior lately has been bothering me. It reminds me very much of her father’s abusive behavior before I finally had enough and made how to get rid of sugar ants in your house him leave the house five years ago. She has been calling me terrible names, saying I said things or did things I never said how to get rid of sugar ants in your house or did, and calling me narcissistic and “clinically insane.” she thinks I’m crazy because I sometimes am critical of her or how to get rid of sugar ants in your house tell her I don’t like the names she is calling me. In other words, reacting like a normal person does when attacked. She’s gaslighting me. I told her to stop, for whatever good that does. She insists it’s not gaslighting. Instead she flips it around and accuses me of gaslighting how to get rid of sugar ants in your house her.

We share a crowded house, and I don’t earn enough to pay all the bills on my how to get rid of sugar ants in your house own (and am too old to take a second job, nor should I have to take a second job!) but she angrily attacked me this morning for “being a bitch” to her, and said she would no longer pay any rent to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house me because of that.

She says she needs to save money to move out. That would be perfectly reasonable under other circumstances. It would be fine if I earned enough that I how to get rid of sugar ants in your house could afford to give them a break so they could how to get rid of sugar ants in your house save money, but I don’t and she knows it. I could be renting out her room instead and she how to get rid of sugar ants in your house knows that too. I also doubt she will actually save money and move, since she has never been able to save money before how to get rid of sugar ants in your house and can’t seem to hold onto a job.

Her brother wants to mediate (he’s good at mediating) but there’s no way for that to happen since then she how to get rid of sugar ants in your house would know I told him everything, and she is predisposed to not cooperate since she’s jealous of the more positive attention she thinks he how to get rid of sugar ants in your house gets from me. They have become distant from each other partly because of how to get rid of sugar ants in your house geographic distance, but also because she thinks he judges her harshly (he doesn’t, but is reasonably critical and she can’t seem to deal with criticism).

I’m not sure what to do. My daughter went out in a huff after flinging a how to get rid of sugar ants in your house litany of insults at me, and is currently (most likely) over at her father’s house (where I’m pretty sure they are all sitting around badmouthing me how to get rid of sugar ants in your house and talking about what a crazy, narcissistic person I am). And yes, I do realize how narcissistic and paranoid I sound, but I’m absolutely sure that’s what is going on. I feel like I’m reliving the nightmare I went through before I finally how to get rid of sugar ants in your house worked up the courage to go no contact with her how to get rid of sugar ants in your house father. He freeloaded off of me too and told everyone I how to get rid of sugar ants in your house was the crazy one when I objected to his crazymaking how to get rid of sugar ants in your house antics and exploitation of my good will.

Now she is accusing me of “playing the victim.” it appears that gaslighting comes naturally to her. She must have been paying attention when I talked to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house her all those times about narcissism and narcissistic abuse, because now she not only knows all the terms and how to get rid of sugar ants in your house phrases, she has weaponized them, using them against me.

When did my daughter become her father? I never thought she would become a gaslighting abuser or how to get rid of sugar ants in your house a narcissist because she always seemed like a high empathy how to get rid of sugar ants in your house person to me. It’s like I turned around and instead of seeing her how to get rid of sugar ants in your house standing there, it’s her father all over again.

Until recently, and since her father left the house (at my insistence) in 2014, my daughter and I have gotten along great. I’m not sure when things started to go downhill or how to get rid of sugar ants in your house even who changed. Was it her or was it me? I feel like it was her. But I just don’t really know. It seems like it started to happen around the time how to get rid of sugar ants in your house of her marriage in january. But her husband doesn’t seem like a narcissist to me, just a quiet guy. But since he doesn’t talk a lot, I have no idea what he is actually saying to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house her. All I know is that during the past few months, our relationship has been very tense and prone to lead how to get rid of sugar ants in your house to arguments. I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells with her, and I know that’s a huge red flag.

Maybe she needed to go out and just calm herself how to get rid of sugar ants in your house down and give herself some space. So I will see when she returns if she’s more reasonable. But if she still refuses to cooperate with my house how to get rid of sugar ants in your house rules, I may have no choice but to make plans to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house move out myself and leave the two of them to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house figure out how to pay for everything themselves. That’s not being spiteful, but I simply can’t live with someone (even my own daughter) who takes advantage of me the way her father did how to get rid of sugar ants in your house years ago. It’s a form of abuse and extremely triggering. I know she will be furious if that’s what I ultimately decide, but what else can I do? I feel trapped and helpless. I feel like I have no power or control over how to get rid of sugar ants in your house this situation at all and very few options open to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house me financially.

I guess I’ll see how things go after she calms down. She’s done this sort of thing before and then apologizes how to get rid of sugar ants in your house later. She always does say her father treated me like crap how to get rid of sugar ants in your house and I should have left sooner. I just don’t know what to think anymore. It’s times like this I just feel so backed into how to get rid of sugar ants in your house a corner and helpless.

I just had to vent. To get this off my chest. This post reminds me of my early articles, when I first started this blog and was realizing I how to get rid of sugar ants in your house had been abused throughout my life, and set about describing the mental and emotional abuse that how to get rid of sugar ants in your house was inflicted on me by my ex and by my how to get rid of sugar ants in your house family. It seems I still haven’t broken that pattern and it snuck in again when how to get rid of sugar ants in your house I least expected it.

Oh gosh this is just unacceptable all round. Firstly, if your daughter is old enough to be married, she is old enough to stand on her own two how to get rid of sugar ants in your house feet financially. She needs to grow up and learn pretty quickly how how to get rid of sugar ants in your house to hold down a job and to pay her fair how to get rid of sugar ants in your house share of the rent and bills that you share. You are the one doing her a favour by allowing how to get rid of sugar ants in your house her and her partner to live in your house. I don’t know how to turn this situation around, but I think if it was me in this, I would start by removing the words “narcissistic” and “gaslighting” from all conversations with her. She has learnt somehow to use them against you. So get rid of them from all discussions. As hard as it may be, try to keep calm when talking to her and don’t accuse her or use emotion. Tell her that regardless of how each of you have how to get rid of sugar ants in your house treated the other in the past, from this day forward, things need to change. She and her partner need to pay their bills or how to get rid of sugar ants in your house move out, and no negotiations about this will occur. But give her a bit of time to come to how to get rid of sugar ants in your house grips with it and to change her behaviour. Don’t fall for the manipulation of accusing you of caring how to get rid of sugar ants in your house for her brother more than her. Tell her you love both equally. But you need and deserve your own space and a how to get rid of sugar ants in your house life free of manipulation and drama. Whenever she starts with the gaslighting just smile and ignore how to get rid of sugar ants in your house (hard I know, but the aim is to retrain her behaviour). Let her know you will talk to her only when how to get rid of sugar ants in your house she is respectful and civil to you (there may be a few long periods of silence but how to get rid of sugar ants in your house that’s OK, it should be temporary). The aim is to eventually have a discussion on the how to get rid of sugar ants in your house level of two adults, not an adult and a whiney child. It’s not going to happen instantly but maybe if you how to get rid of sugar ants in your house persist you will be able to rekindle the closeness you how to get rid of sugar ants in your house used to have.

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