Marie Kondo and how to get rid of ants in my house naturally ADHD – Curbed

I’m in the process of moving from baltimore to washington, D.C., which has given me the chance to do something I how to get rid of ants in my house naturally have always dreaded: go through my stuff. Ever since I moved out of my parents’ house, I have accumulated things nonstop: clothes, records, books, scores, recording equipment, office supplies. With one exception, I’ve moved this stuff every year of my life since how to get rid of ants in my house naturally 2013, and the bigger the space I move to, the more stuff I find myself accumulating—or “collecting,” as my therapist calls it. “collecting” is common behavior among people, like me, who have ADHD.

Here’s how kondo’s magic works: first, she arrives at a client’s home and takes time to say something genuinely nice how to get rid of ants in my house naturally about it, then sits with the family to thank the house for how to get rid of ants in my house naturally all it’s done. Then, she encourages each member of the family to gather their how to get rid of ants in my house naturally belongings one category at a time, beginning with clothes, followed by books, then paper documents, then miscellaneous ( komono in japanese) objects from the kitchen, garage, bathroom, etc. Within each of these categories, the family member spends time with every single object, asking themself if it “sparks joy” before deciding whether or not to keep it.

Kondo’s method is tailored to collectors like me: chronically anxious people with ADHD. For people like us, clutter is often a problem because we have difficulty with how to get rid of ants in my house naturally what is called executive functioning, the mental processes that help us organize information and regulate how to get rid of ants in my house naturally our decision making. This makes setting up systems, routines, and boundaries challenging. People with ADHD tend to keep things because we believe how to get rid of ants in my house naturally they trigger a memory or will be “useful” in the near future—and, being easily distracted, we simply store them away and forget about them.

Kondo’s method works because it circumvents some of these habits how to get rid of ants in my house naturally directly. Instead of asking, in reference to household items or memorabilia,“do you use or need this?” (a very easy question for the ADHD mind to answer how to get rid of ants in my house naturally in the affirmative), kondo asks something the ADHD mind cannot outrationalize: how does this object make you feel? In addition, the konmari method is much less overwhelming than other organizational how to get rid of ants in my house naturally methods because it breaks what seems like a monolithic wall how to get rid of ants in my house naturally of stuff into distinct categories, so that the decluttering process becomes easier to approach and how to get rid of ants in my house naturally easier to complete. And having the subject gather all of their belongings within how to get rid of ants in my house naturally a certain category in one place helps someone like me how to get rid of ants in my house naturally visualize exactly how much stuff they’re actually dealing with once it is liberated from however how to get rid of ants in my house naturally many cubbyholes they’re saving it in.

Perhaps most importantly, kondo is non-judgemental, and her approach is centered around empathy and conscientiousness. Because she starts from a non-confrontational place, encouraging self-sufficiency among her clients (she is not there to clean for you, but to teach you how to clean), she allows the viewer to become introspective. The show is not about what to get rid of, but rather about what to keep, and this is crucial. It asks viewers an important question: what makes you happy?

I was shocked to see how many of the things how to get rid of ants in my house naturally I collected I kept either to impress others or because how to get rid of ants in my house naturally I felt that I needed to truck around a complete how to get rid of ants in my house naturally material history of my past. As someone who frequently advocates that people design and conceive how to get rid of ants in my house naturally of their spaces as being for themselves first and for how to get rid of ants in my house naturally impressing others second, I was surprised that I kept so many books because how to get rid of ants in my house naturally I needed people who came to my house to know how to get rid of ants in my house naturally that I knew a lot about dead composers and that how to get rid of ants in my house naturally I was musically literate based on how many scores I how to get rid of ants in my house naturally had. I’d continued to hang onto them despite the fact that how to get rid of ants in my house naturally I am no longer involved professionally in classical music (and that keeping these belongings reminds me of the career how to get rid of ants in my house naturally change I didn’t necessarily want to make). Though some have complained that kondo’s method is all about purging instead of keeping, I didn’t get that sense at all. For example, I kept almost all of my books about architecture and how to get rid of ants in my house naturally design, because these genuinely make me happy; having a veritable architecture library gives me a sense of how to get rid of ants in my house naturally competence and self-sufficiency.

I’ve always been meticulous in maintaining a personal history of how to get rid of ants in my house naturally my life. I had to keep that dress I wore when I how to get rid of ants in my house naturally ran off with a guy to chicago my junior year how to get rid of ants in my house naturally of college; I had to keep every single music theory paper I’ve ever written. But the “spark joy” question led me to rethink that impulse. I ended up asking an even bigger question: does my own material past make me happy? I’ve written before about how people tend to over-design their homes for an aspirational future, but applying kondo’s method led me to wonder how our spaces accommodate, or should accommodate, our pasts. In particular, I began to think about how ADHD turns a luxury how to get rid of ants in my house naturally (having a lot of storage space) into a hazard. I found that the more space I had to put how to get rid of ants in my house naturally things in, the more things I accumulated, and when the time came to move to a smaller how to get rid of ants in my house naturally space, I was forced to reconsider the relationship I’ve had with stuff for my entire adult life. KonMari has made me more mindful of the goods I how to get rid of ants in my house naturally bring into my home in the first place. I find myself in the store holding things I want how to get rid of ants in my house naturally to buy impulsively and asking myself, how does this really make me feel? Can I picture exactly where this will belong in my how to get rid of ants in my house naturally home?

The way kondo thinks about objects, about empathizing with our things as if they have feelings, is similar to the role of the design critic, who believes in the emotional and physical power of the how to get rid of ants in my house naturally objects and spaces in our lives. Instead of the materialistic object-lust usually displayed on american TV, kondo makes looking at objects a critical activity, where, for each object, the person doing the examining unwittingly creates their own material how to get rid of ants in my house naturally history for that object: where it came from, what it made you feel when you first saw it, your memories associated with it, and finally, how it makes you feel now. This gives ordinary objects dignity that they rarely see, and that, for me, sparks joy.

Kate wagner is the creator of the viral blog mcmansion how to get rid of ants in my house naturally hell, which roasts the world’s ugliest houses. Outside of mcmansion hell, kate is a guest contributor for curbed, 99 percent invisible , and atlas obscura. In addition to writing about architecture, kate has worked extensively as a sound engineer.

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