My son how to get rid of small ants in your house has a controlling girlfriend.

She can’ t seem to accept the fact that boyfriends come with how to get rid of small ants in your house moms and best buddies. Lately, my son has not been replying to my once a how to get rid of small ants in your house week texts and when he does, it is not at all something he would say. We are assuming she is replying for him. His best buddy is noticing the same thing and is how to get rid of small ants in your house hurt that my son can never come alone to hang how to get rid of small ants in your house out with him. She even comes along when they go off and shoot how to get rid of small ants in your house their guns.

I am often home alone because of my husband’s job. One time she was sending me such vicious vibes that how to get rid of small ants in your house I felt it was best that I leave my house. I went for a walk and came back after they how to get rid of small ants in your house left. I will always remember how scared I felt. It really hurts that my son didn’t speak up for me. She has done some other stuff also and my son how to get rid of small ants in your house still does not stand up for what is right.

If I can figure things out correctly, I believe she has given him some rules and restrictions how to get rid of small ants in your house to follow when he is home with me, such as not taking any food or having meals with how to get rid of small ants in your house me. That was one way of me showing I love him! He just says "no thanks" which is not like him.

I am always afraid that the two of them will how to get rid of small ants in your house show up together when I am alone. I don’t like living like this. I think of ways to get out of the house how to get rid of small ants in your house on the weekends just in case they come. I plan to talk to my son soon and tell how to get rid of small ants in your house him how I feel – maybe even tell him to come alone when I am how to get rid of small ants in your house alone. I don’t want to hurt him but this is also my how to get rid of small ants in your house home and I don’t feel like I should be living in fear, afraid that he might show up with his girlfriend when how to get rid of small ants in your house I am alone.

Welcome T – my take: he picked her. It’s his lesson. I know how hard that is to face, been there/done that. One of my sons married a woman who didn’t want to share him with anyone…Even his family of origin…Or maybe, especially us…I don’t know.

I know for some member here the concept of lethal how to get rid of small ants in your house vibes may be a stretch, but not for me. I said something to his wife that she didn’t like about her being like her mom in liking how to get rid of small ants in your house old fashioned stuff…(it was just an innocent observation)…And she shot a look of hatred at me that how to get rid of small ants in your house literally turned me inside out, physically. I was, within minutes, bleeding internally. But…He got himself into it and it was his life how to get rid of small ants in your house path to work through it.

The other side of the coin is you can tell how to get rid of small ants in your house him that you are only willing to see him alone how to get rid of small ants in your house and she will not be allowed in your home. You have a life path, too. I would caution you not to explain why. It’s your choice and he doesn’t get to vote. If he refuses to see you under those conditions…Tell him you love him and will miss him and how to get rid of small ants in your house hold your ground.

If you feel uncomfortable when they visit, you have every right to halt those visits. It doesn’t matter if they really are a threat or not; you feel threatened and you need to feel safe. I think there are some excellent suggestions above on how how to get rid of small ants in your house to do this without being overly confrontational about it.

I do think you are jumping to conclusions about the how to get rid of small ants in your house change in your son. It’s easy to think that if someone starts acting differently how to get rid of small ants in your house after starting a relationship, the cause must be the GF/BF. However, there are plenty of other explanations. Your DS could have some mental illness, some hormonal imbalance, started doing drugs, found religion from a questionable source, etc. Or you could be exactly right and the GF is how to get rid of small ants in your house being controlling. If you assume it’s the GF and it’s not, though, you won’t ever solve the problem.

You don’t know that she is answering his texts. You don’t know that she’s given him a list of rules to follow. You don’t know that she forces herself into every situation such how to get rid of small ants in your house as going shooting with his buddy. You don’t know that she reads all his emails; even if she does, maybe he reads all of hers. It may be a couple thing, not a controlling thing. If some mother wrote on here about her 19 yo how to get rid of small ants in your house dd moving in with her 22 yo boyfriend, I think most of us would assume he was the how to get rid of small ants in your house controlling one. A three year age difference isn’t huge in most relationships, but when one of them is a teenager, every year counts. A 19 yo involved with a 16 yo can be how to get rid of small ants in your house illegal.

You said your DS moved out a year ago. Does that mean he lived at home up until he how to get rid of small ants in your house was 22? He may have found those last few years of living how to get rid of small ants in your house at home a blow to his ego. He may have felt smothered (independent of how you actually treated him) and feels he has now found freedom. He may be refusing meals and not answering texts because how to get rid of small ants in your house he’s exerting his independence.

GF may not talk when they visit because she has how to get rid of small ants in your house a different communication style. Maybe she doesn’t know what to say. Maybe she assumes you don’t want to talk to her. Maybe she finds your communication style oppressive. To some people any type of direct question seems like how to get rid of small ants in your house an inquisition. Maybe she feels just as uncomfortable around you. Of maybe she’s reacting to how your DS talks about you. It’s human nature to do more complaining than praising. We don’t gush about getting a doctor’s appointment on time, but we certainly complain about being kept in the waiting how to get rid of small ants in your house room for half an hour past appt time. It’s not very macho talking about how much one loves how to get rid of small ants in your house one’s parents. Chances are, your son complains about you a lot. I know most of my comments about my parents to how to get rid of small ants in your house my friends are complaints. It doesn’t mean I don’t love them or they don’t have good points. IT’s just natural. So if GF doesn’t have much to balance against your DS’s run-of-the-mill slightly negative comments, she may have a blown-out-of-proportion negative opinion about you.

At 20 and 23 neither one is probably very mature. It could be they are just a bad fit and how to get rid of small ants in your house feed each other’s bad points. The tension you feel when they are together may not how to get rid of small ants in your house be directed at you; it could be their own dysfunctionality (though again, since you don’t feel safe, you should stop those immediately).

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